Five things I learned this week. 5.12.13

Here are five things that I learned or was reminded of this week:

1.  There comes a point when you start feeling your age.

2.  It’s fun to race but its more fun to race with friends.

3.  I often get sore in muscles that I never knew I had. (refer to #1)

4.  The words in my head are often difficult to transfer to paper.

5.  I’m thankful for my mom and all the women who have been like a mom to me.

What did you learn this week?


Three hours of history.

Clint Eastwood Vector Portrait

Clint Eastwood Vector Portrait (Photo credit: Vectorportal)

“Three hours of non stop american history”.

This is what I thought to myself every time I entered the classroom on Wednesday nights back in the late nineties. Three hours of non stop american history, sitting in an out-of-date wooden desk underneath humming fluorescent lights.  No breaks. No pauses. No escape.

Our teacher was an older man. He was mysterious and closed off. He reminded me of an old, battle hardened war vet, weathered and emotionless. The same solemn demeanor week in and week out. Picture being taught history by Clint Eastwood with a beer belly.

He always wore the same wrinkled button down shirt and a pair of khakis and he demanded that we show up for every class, on time. We could ask no questions. We just sat there, listened and tapped our pencils on the desks.

Every Wednesday night he leaned on the front of his desk and spoke for three hours with his arms crossed and a scowl on his face. He used no notes or visual aids. Just a man and his memories. It was as if he lived in all those moments, recounting every obscure and minute detail like it was fresh.

His favorite phrase was “moving forward”. After he explained, in detail, every historical american event he would transition with “moving forward”. After every defining struggle and every monumental victory, we moved forward. Because history doesn’t stand still.

Every Wednesday night we learned how America grew. We learned how it over came adversity and became what it is now. Through the eyes of a grumpy old history teacher, we learned that history is dynamic and ever happening.

If there is anything that we can learn from history it’s that we can never be content with where we are. To make history, we have to move forward even when it is hard to do so.

When I think back on that class and remember the old mans words, I think of my own struggles:

When the words aren’t coming out right while writing this.

Move forward.

When my legs aren’t responding while during a run.

Move forward.

When the day job becomes mundane.

Move forward.

And when I compare those history lessons with my spiritual life, I understand that it also has to move forward. When I struggle with faith I’m reminded that God is compassionate and loving and that each day is a fresh start. Every day is a new opportunity.

Are you making history today?


Five things I learned this week. 11.11.12

Here are five things that I learned or was reminded of this week:

1. I haven’t blogged in a month. I miss it.

2. I haven’t ran in two weeks. My legs are rebelling.

3. God is off our charts of comprehension.

4. My favorite chicken is a barbecued chicken.

5. I adapt quickly to cold weather.

What did you learn this week?


The joy of writers block

Writers block is a funny thing.  Writing, in theory, is a simple thing to do but the act of doing it is often very complicated.  Call it performance anxiety.

There are times when the computer screen mocks me.  It’s blank, grayness resembles an overcast sky and it sucks the color out of everything around it.  The same way writers block sucks the life out of your soul.

The blinking cursor glares at me.  It’s like an angry boss sitting across from me at the other end of a long conference room table.  It taps it’s fingers on the table and demands that I give it something.

“What do you got for me son?” it asks.

Sometimes I stare at the screen and let my eyes lose focus.  The few words that I have managed to get on the screen turn into a blur and my thoughts drift.  But then reality snaps me back.  I still haven’t accomplished anything.  I still have something that needs to be said.

The fact that I have nothing makes me sweat.  The thoughts in my head have gotten clogged up along the path that leads from my mind to my finger tips.  If only there were an Exlax for the mind.  Until then the keyboard remains quiet.

Luckily, writers block is temporary.  The thoughts will flow.  Everything will come out… eventually.

I find that writing about writers block, relieves writers block.

Voila!

What do you do to get past writers block?


My 100th blog post: Why I do it.

I’ve never been a fan of the word “blog”.  It just sounds too technical.  It lacks heart.  The shortened version of “web log” just doesn’t sound personal.  A web log sounds like something doctors, lawyers and IT people use to record technical data.  To me, this blog is more than a web log.  It’s a piece of me.

This is my 100th post.  I started it almost a year ago.  And I can’t tell you what motivated me to do it.  I’ve always enjoyed writing and over the years I have amassed a few notebooks full of stories and ramblings, nothing completely finished.  I keep those notebooks in a box in the closet.  It’s something personal to me.  Something that I’ve never felt comfortable sharing… until now.

Why do I do it?  Good question.  The best answer is this.  I have something to say.  There is no ulterior motive.  I have nothing to sell you.  I’m not trying to make a buck, yet.  I’m not trying to aggressively build a platform.  It comes down to the simple joy of writing.

Writing feels good to me.  It’s fulfilling.  When I finish a post, I get that same feeling I get when I finish a run.  It’s almost as if writing releases endorphins.  No longer do I just get a runner’s high.  I get a writers high.

So what you read here is from the heart.  I try to tell you a story and let you see the world through my eyes, as twisted and quirky as it may be.  It’s more than a log.  It’s a piece of me.

Thank you to all that follow me and share.  I’ve enjoyed the journey so far and look forward to the future.  Here’s to 100 more!


How I quit social networking for a week and survived.

My name is Stewart and I’ve been social network free for seven days.  Seven days without Twitter.  Seven days without Facebook and Seven days without blogging.  I missed all of you but at the same time I needed some space.

My decision to quit social networking for one calendar week was an easy one.  It began to be to much.  I found myself checking it too many times a day.  Unfortunately, I became obsessed and I didn’t even realize it.  So the decision to quit was less of a decision and more of a necessity.

When I gave it up, I found freedom.  I was reminded that there is life out there.  The world doesn’t reside on a website.

Here a few other things I realized:

*  An Instagram sunrise doesn’t come close to the real thing.

*  Life exists outside the confines of a desktop/laptop/smartphone.

*  Face to face interaction with people is gold.

*  When I turned it all off, I found the silence to be invigorating and refreshing.

*  There is a lot of good advice given on Twitter but good advice is like wine.  It’s healthy in moderation but it can be overdone.

*  It’s nice to wonder what you are doing sometimes.  It’s not nice to know everything you’re doing… all the time.

*  There are these things called books and they’re fun.

*  I had some good conversations with God.  Sometimes the social networks get in the way of that.

Overall, my time away was good.  My head and my heart needed it.

Do you need to turn it off for a while?  Is it time to disconnect?


Five things I learned this week. 4.29.12

Here are five things that I learned or was reminded of this week:

1.  God is closer than you think.

2.  I want my life to be narrated by Donald Sutherland.

3.  When it comes to running, some days you have it; some days you don’t.

4.  Grass doesn’t sprout overnight.

5.  Writing is fun… most of the time.

What did you learn this week? 


Living together in a sea of brake lights.

If you live in Atlanta, you know that traffic is a horrible, twisted mess.  Every morning and afternoon, we come together to commune in a sea of brake lights and a fog of exhaust.  This is a ritual in Atlanta and probably your town also.

The unique thing about traffic is that, like life, we are all in it together.  We may be strangers but in these moments we share the same burden.

Oddly enough, I tend to see the same people as a drive to work everyday.  We are on the same journey together.  I don’t know their names or what they do but I have a big imagination.  Let me introduce you to them:

There’s the couple in my rear view mirror.  They sit in an old blue pick up truck with the loud engine. The man in the drivers seat looks to be in his late forties.  He looks like a Glenn, so that’s what I named him.

His dark brown hair is neatly combed.  He has a pencil thin mustache that’s starting to grey.  His face is narrow and tan.  His skin is leathery, as if he has been smoking a pack a day for the past thirty years.  He sits there attentively, with one bony hand on the steering wheel and the other around his wife in the passenger seat.

Her name is Susan.  She is bigger than Glenn and a few years younger.  She has a round, pink face and her curly brown hair is wrapped in a pony tail.  She wears a pink shirt with blue spots.  One of those nursing shirts.  She probably works at a pediatricians office.

From my view in the mirror, Susan’s mouth never stops moving.  She faces Glenn the whole time and whatever she has to say is important.  But Glenn doesn’t seem to mind the chatter.  During the one sided conversation, he smiles and nods his head.  He hangs on her every word and every now and then he strokes her shoulder, sympathizing with her concerns and sharing her joy.

“These two really love each other.” - I think to myself.  And since they are with each other, traffic is an afterthought.

To my right is a young african american man driving a compact car.  I call him Eric.  I recognize him by the tattoo on the side of his neck and his dark sunglasses.

Eric has a detached look on his face.  He’s deep in thought.  That hint of a smile tells me that he’s having a pretty good day.

Maybe he is thinking about his daughter.  Her picture hangs from his rear view mirror.  Whatever it is, something has made him happy.  The music sounds sweeter today, evident by his fingers tapping the steering wheel and his head nodding back and forth to the beat of the song on the radio.

It’s almost as if Eric relishes this time of the day.  The traffic finally gives him a chance to slow down and think about things.  I imagine that he has big dreams.  I can see, by his swagger, that he has a purpose.

I wonder if Eric, Glenn or Susan ever see me.  Do they wonder who I am?  Have they noticed that we share this traffic burden with one another?

I recognize that they are human just like me, that they are not just random people.

Sometimes we need to look around and understand that we are not in this traffic jam alone.  We all laugh and cry.  We all live and love and we all have dreams.  These moments are meant to be shared with each other.

Because just like traffic, we are all in this life together.


How I attended a conference without attending.

Twitter is a wonderful thing.  It allows us to communicate and share ideas and experiences from anywhere we are, at any time.  This weekend, Twitter allowed me to attend a conference without actually being there.

This past Saturday, blogger, humorist and tribal leader Bryan Allain hosted the first Killer Tribes conference.  The conference is designed to help you extend your reach, find your fans and build a killer tribe.  Three key things you need if you want to spread your message.

Due to prior commitments, I wasn’t able to attend in person.  So I did the next best thing.  I attended virtually.  Thanks to the power of Twitter I was able to live vicariously through the people that I follow.  Through their pictures, updates and quotes, I felt like I was there.

Here are a few golden nuggets of wisdom that were presented from the various speakers at the Killer Tribes conference:

“Someone does not need to approve your idea before you go and do it.”Alli Worthington

“Don’t change what inspires you now when you’re successful later.”Daddy-O

“It’s not that people want to be important.  They want to be understood.”Sarah Mae

“Show your warts. Show your flaws. We are all human.  Don’t ignore that.”Mark Hughes

“Beware of becoming famous for something you hate.”Derek Webb

“The passion of your dream usually outweighs the talent for your dream.  Grow your talent.”Jon Acuff

“Quitters never win?  Quitters win all the time, when they quit the right things.”Jeff Goins

“You can’t go around demanding an audience.  You need to earn an audience through quality work.”Tamara Lunardo

“How do you build a tribe?  You get on the ground. You’re not approachable from afar.”Carlos Whittaker

“Never under estimate the power of encouragement.  Go out of your way to encourage someone else.”Stephen Brewster

“Don’t push out content. Networking is a two way street.  Focus on helping others.”Dave Delaney

“Be insanely helpful and ask for nothing in return.”Steve Kamb

Now that is great advice.

Needless to say, those that attended the conference got more out of than I did by attending virtually.  I missed out on face to face interaction and conversation.  I wasn’t able to completely connect.  Which is what the conference was all about.  But there is always next year.

If you attended, what is the most significant thing you learned?


Clear the Mechanism

I’m not a fan of romantic dramas and I’m not a big fan of Kevin Costner movies either.  Waterworld ruined it for me and since Tin Cup, his movies have kind of gone down hill.  However, I am a sucker for sports movies.

In the late 90′s, Kevin Costner starred as an aging baseball pitcher named Billy Chapel in a romance/baseball movie called “For love of the game”.  There is a great clip in this movie that illustrates how he handles distraction and fear:

There are times, at our jobs and in our lives, that there are a hundred things going on at once.  Our  lives are full of distractions.  It’s hard to concentrate on one singular task.

Maybe it’s not the distractions that inhibit us.  It could be the voices of doubt that yell at us.  They tell us that we aren’t good enough.  They try to convince us that it can’t be done.

It’s during these times that we need to take a deep breath and focus.  We need to block out the negative voices that tell us those lies.  We need to ignore them.  We need to clear the mechanism.

If only it where that easy.  Wouldn’t it be nice to utter these words and have everything go blurry around us except for the task at hand?  To instantly shut out the voices of doubt?

Twitter, Facebook and e-mail are taking up all my time.

Clear the mechanism.

You’ll never be able to run that far. You don’t have it in you.

Clear the mechanism.

You don’t need to hear what God is telling you today.

Clear the mechanism.

In the movie, Billy Chapel goes on to pitch a perfect game, quits baseball and lives happily ever after. Only in the movies, right?  As silly as it seems, it goes to show what we are capable of if we keep fear and distraction at bay.

What’s distracting you?  What is the voice of doubt trying to prevent you from doing today?